We are finally getting settled in. The kids have been enjoying their weekly Classical Conversations, we've found a few homeschool groups to plug into and we've made some real connections and friendships. We found out that one of our homeschool family buddies lives only a block away from us, so we've been able to visit with them quite often!
Well...I'm glad we've gotten through October. It was a month of decisions and I got off the rail a time or two. Just a few weeks ago we were still struggling with the newbie syndrome, not knowing anybody in our new city and feeling completely unplugged. The kids were complaining about being bored and I was seriously considering taking them to school. That is until I visited a few schools during the season of "La Dia De Los Muertos" and realized the heavy influence Halloween would play on a given school day in October, given the Mexican cultural influence in our town. Maybe we're a little peculiar, but in our family we don't like to observe the occasion at all, and in fact, my kids find it offensive. Even a simple trip to Walmart when all the Halloween decorations are out in the open bothers my 9 year old-- she'll run to the other side of the cart just to avoid having to pass the decoration. Sounds extreme, but you never realize how spiritually sensitive younger (and even some older) children are until you expose them when they haven't been exposed. I prayed for peace about continuing to homeschool, and what can I say. I have all the peace and the strength I need to keep going in that direction for now...and the kids are back to a new norm.
Needless to say, November brought a breath of fresh air to our entire family...only four days in and I sense a beautiful seasonal change happening both in the natural weather and in the "spirit". It's a great time of the year to focus on being thankful.
I looked at my daughter's Christmas list the other day and realized how extravagantly LONG it was (and how expensive most of the items were). And my ears have been more attuned to the sound of complaining from the kids about what they don't have...and it makes my skin crawl. It's to the point that I will not let it slide again. So we're doing something about it.
After a talk about thankfulness I realized that my kids probably have never truly been exposed to those in need (besides our distant relationship with a Compassion International child Ny supports).
It also came as a shock to my own system to walk out of the bagel store a few days ago with bagels for me and my kids...and walk right past a homeless guy in downtown Monterey who was digging through the garbage can to find a MYO yogurt someone had just finished off and tossed in. He took it out and finished off the rest. I kept walking to my car. I looked back. I kept walking. Then I looked in my own hands, realizing fully that I had just purchased three toasted bagels topped with yummy cream cheese. Yeah, I was hungry and my stomach growled. I had to get my daughter to a doc appointment and needed a bite before we settled in a for a long wait and the bagel was my plan . It was MINE. And God said, "No. You give to those in need and I will provide for yours." So we did. We backtracked our steps, gave him the bagel...and I will never forget the look in his eyes. He said "thank you". Simple transaction, but powerful, because as I walked back to my car I kept thinking how good it felt to do the right thing. And I also couldn't help but to wonder how in the world any society could solve a problem as complicated as homelessness.
From that moment forward, I have been thinking of ways our family can help our cities on the Peninsula...just contributing however we can.
We have a homeless shelter/soup kitchen nearby and I'm hoping to carve out a plan for our family to get plugged in with that soon.
Meanwhile, we have Thanksgiving coming up soon-- and I can't help but to wonder what this year will be like- not being with my parents and brother back home in Alabama - celebrating the holidays for the first time ever without them. It will be different for sure, but trusting God that it won't be a lonely one. He's sent us some great friends in the past 6 months who have really reached out to us in so many ways.
So I'm grateful for so much this season- new friends and old friends, family nearby and family far away, and the fact that God has blessed us with so much to be thankful for- like a new home and neighborhood, new educational opportunities for the kids (Classical Conversations), and mainly just the stability of family life together and the love we share with one another.
We've had some tough times these past 8 months or so, just trying to figure out our new identity in two new cities (and in a different region of the U.S. at that!)...but it's finally beginning to feel a bit like home. Not the old home, but a new one. The dust is settling, the hardest part of the transition is over, and we can finally breathe. The kids are starting to feel more at home, and things are getting better. And I am thankful.
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
The spirit of thankfulness
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Tuesday, October 18, 2011
We MOVED!
Okay, so we finally moved ...AGAIN. And the mere fact that I am just now getting around to updating this blog should give you a clue as to how super busy and crazy it's been around here.
But things are settling down a bit now.
I'm done with most of my painting.
Oh, and here is a pic of our new California home (it's a bit hard to see the entire home from the angle I snapped the photo)...but it's a typical, modest California-style home in a pretty decent neighborhood about 25 minutes out from the ocean (which means it's warmer!!! Yippee!!)
(uh....ok...pic coming soon)
The girls are super happy about the climate change. There are quite a few neighborhood and community parks, so that's always nice...not to mention I'm only a short 4 minutes away from Target, Walmart, Kohls, and the mall.
The local schools, on the other hand, are questionable (I'm sure the teachers are working really hard to get the delayed English learners up to par), but there is only so much a school can do within one academic year.
Private schools are decently priced compared to Alabama (can you believe it???), but we have chosen to homeschool yet another year. Mainly because our constant moving is interrupting, and also because Ny has requested to continue homeschooling.
We found a Classical Conversations group in Monterey and quite happily paid the fee (one time fee of about $400, plus materials)...with the the idea that it was cheaper than paying that same amount monthly for private school. We meet with the group once a week and Ny gets several classes (art, science, history, Latin, math) rolled into a period of about 3 1/2 hours with a specially trained CC tutor who is paid to teach the class. We parents have to be present in the class to observe the methods and repeat them at home, and we participate by assisting the tutors in any way they need help. I like it a lot and it is Ny and Z's one time during the week where they connect with friends for a few hours.
On Fridays we have a local play group too...I just haven't attended the one closer to our new town yet...so we'll check that out and see how it goes.
At this point, our biggest needs are meeting up with friends on a more consistent basis (Ny is at the age where forming and keeping relationships is really important...and it's tough when you keep moving...so that's one of her main needs right now), and getting some form of a consistent home + school routine together in our new house. You know the drill- new environment, new rules, new routines to learn. It's like starting all over again- leaving your former comfort zone of what to expect and creating and learning new ones. So that's what we're working on - even simple things, like getting our kids back onto consistent bed time routines, and...ditching curriculum that doesn't work!
Yep.
We found that the Steck Vaughn spelling wasn't going so well. Ny was giving the output, understood the concepts, but it bored her to tears. She has finally asked me to not make her do it anymore. After reviewing the book one last time, I agree. So we're trying something new with that (we got these spelling bee flashcards and are just learning around 20 a week- definitions, roots, and spelling). So far that is all I've got planned for spelling. But that's another topic for another blog post.
How did Z take the move?
You know what? All of the withdrawal she's been through this summer turned out to be one of those phases where she perceived another major change was upon the family- and she was, of course, upset and didn't know how to express her feelings. Well, thankfully, her silence has been broken, she's not as moody (in fact she's gotten pretty happy since she moved here and enjoyed all those days of sunshine and NO FOG!) But now we're working on the 3 year old tantrum issues...but getting through that too.
I was talking to a friend this weekend who reminded how much children need consistency and how to tap into their best mode of learning (so for me, it's visual, and perhaps so for my kids too). Meaning, if I have visual learners they are far more likely to respond to chore charts with visual cues than to my constant derailing and nagging about what they need to do next or haven't already done. So I'm working on that bit.
Yeah. Being a mom is a process.
I'll, of course, have more updates soon...
I've been thinking about plucking out a new blog that comes from a different angle other than home schooling.I haven't been able to quite give that much thought yet, though, considering how tied up I am mentally right now with just sorting through life.
For now, though, school is in full swing and I've got my hands full enough already,
Till later...
But things are settling down a bit now.
I'm done with most of my painting.
Oh, and here is a pic of our new California home (it's a bit hard to see the entire home from the angle I snapped the photo)...but it's a typical, modest California-style home in a pretty decent neighborhood about 25 minutes out from the ocean (which means it's warmer!!! Yippee!!)
The girls are super happy about the climate change. There are quite a few neighborhood and community parks, so that's always nice...not to mention I'm only a short 4 minutes away from Target, Walmart, Kohls, and the mall.
The local schools, on the other hand, are questionable (I'm sure the teachers are working really hard to get the delayed English learners up to par), but there is only so much a school can do within one academic year.
Private schools are decently priced compared to Alabama (can you believe it???), but we have chosen to homeschool yet another year. Mainly because our constant moving is interrupting, and also because Ny has requested to continue homeschooling.
We found a Classical Conversations group in Monterey and quite happily paid the fee (one time fee of about $400, plus materials)...with the the idea that it was cheaper than paying that same amount monthly for private school. We meet with the group once a week and Ny gets several classes (art, science, history, Latin, math) rolled into a period of about 3 1/2 hours with a specially trained CC tutor who is paid to teach the class. We parents have to be present in the class to observe the methods and repeat them at home, and we participate by assisting the tutors in any way they need help. I like it a lot and it is Ny and Z's one time during the week where they connect with friends for a few hours.
On Fridays we have a local play group too...I just haven't attended the one closer to our new town yet...so we'll check that out and see how it goes.
At this point, our biggest needs are meeting up with friends on a more consistent basis (Ny is at the age where forming and keeping relationships is really important...and it's tough when you keep moving...so that's one of her main needs right now), and getting some form of a consistent home + school routine together in our new house. You know the drill- new environment, new rules, new routines to learn. It's like starting all over again- leaving your former comfort zone of what to expect and creating and learning new ones. So that's what we're working on - even simple things, like getting our kids back onto consistent bed time routines, and...ditching curriculum that doesn't work!
Yep.
We found that the Steck Vaughn spelling wasn't going so well. Ny was giving the output, understood the concepts, but it bored her to tears. She has finally asked me to not make her do it anymore. After reviewing the book one last time, I agree. So we're trying something new with that (we got these spelling bee flashcards and are just learning around 20 a week- definitions, roots, and spelling). So far that is all I've got planned for spelling. But that's another topic for another blog post.
How did Z take the move?
You know what? All of the withdrawal she's been through this summer turned out to be one of those phases where she perceived another major change was upon the family- and she was, of course, upset and didn't know how to express her feelings. Well, thankfully, her silence has been broken, she's not as moody (in fact she's gotten pretty happy since she moved here and enjoyed all those days of sunshine and NO FOG!) But now we're working on the 3 year old tantrum issues...but getting through that too.
I was talking to a friend this weekend who reminded how much children need consistency and how to tap into their best mode of learning (so for me, it's visual, and perhaps so for my kids too). Meaning, if I have visual learners they are far more likely to respond to chore charts with visual cues than to my constant derailing and nagging about what they need to do next or haven't already done. So I'm working on that bit.
Yeah. Being a mom is a process.
I'll, of course, have more updates soon...
I've been thinking about plucking out a new blog that comes from a different angle other than home schooling.I haven't been able to quite give that much thought yet, though, considering how tied up I am mentally right now with just sorting through life.
For now, though, school is in full swing and I've got my hands full enough already,
Till later...
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
School Has Arrived
As much as I'd like to post pics of our school days, there is just not a lot to post right now considering we're mostly boxed up and ready to move any day now. But I can definitely give you an idea of what our school days have been looking like so far.
We officially started up our homeschool two weeks ago. The first week was probably the most difficult as we needed to sort out methods for making everything run smoothly. At this point I think I have a reasonable system that works, at least until the move, and even then, it's versatile enough where we should be able to easily get to our things and keep our system running without needing an elaborate school set up. Sure, it would be nice to have everything in place and be comfortably learning at a decent, well-lit desk with bookshelves for our material...but it's a no-can-do for now, and we've found that two medium sized cardboard boxes and a kitchen table work just as good! At least until we move.
I'll post a page soon of our curriculum picks for this school year, but here's what our basic schedule looks like:
8:00- up, shower, breakfast, devotional with Daily Audio Bible for Kids
Block 1: Language Arts (Grammar, Spelling, Writing Workshop, Handwriting, Literature)
Block 2: Math
Block 3: History or Science
Block 4: Art, French, or Music (music appreciation or piano lesson)
Once a week we introduce a "hymnal of the week". I realized just how important it is for my kids to understand their roots and to learn many of the hymnals that were commonplace to me in my upbringing. I don't want my kids to lose out on that. Simple hymns such as "Just As I Am" aren't ever sung at most of the churches we've attended because we generally don't attend traditional services. As much as we like the contemporary style worship, there is absolutely nothing that can replace the beauty of simple hymnals and I find it kind of...well...(shameful?) sad that my kids have never heard of "What A Friend We Have in Jesus". Know what I mean? So we started to introduce this concept of a "hymnal a week" to reinforce that. Mainly I just have Ny write down the words to the first verse only in her notebook, have her listen to the song online and learn it. Then we sing it together. Each week we learn a new one and review the older ones from previous weeks.
This year we're also studying California History...which I'm a bit nostalgic about it because I also studied California History in 4th grade! (We lived in Atwater back in the late 80's). A friend is going to sell me her "My Golden California" curriculum which she says I can adapt to Ny's level. Until then, we're using the plenteous resources available to us at our local libraries.
You wouldn't believe the TONS of info on your own state until actually deem it important to go looking for it...and boy is it everywhere. Between the libraries' avid "state" collections and resources, the local museums and aquariums, and welcome centers, I think we have enough resources at our disposal to keep us on California history for more than a year...but we're going to only plan on studying it until December. We'll see where our interest leads us into the new semester.
For literature, we're reading classics and doing book reports. Right now we're reading "The Secret Garden". I wanted to place more focus this year on teaching Ny to practice writing, writing, writing, and learning the elements of literature. This means I've decided to go back to some curriculum which in the past I totally disliked (Shurley English) but with time I've learned to adapt to our needs (in other words, I don't follow the curriculum word for word!) We're currently finishing up Level 2 with that. Yep, the same level 2 we started two years ago! But that's okay, it's definitely on target for her now.
I dunno...what else should I say...
Oh! Almost forgot...we are starting Classical Conversations in a few days- a total excitement hub for our kids since they haven't been in a "co-op" of any sorts since our move to Cali. While CC isn't necessarily a co-op, it definitely will feel somewhat familiar to us (morning assembly and prayer) and it is Christian which helps me feel more at ease that we'll meet and befriend other families of faith. The kids are just super excited! And we'll go clothes shopping this weekend for a few more items (didn't I just buy Ny some bluejeans two MONTHS ago??!!!)
Anyhoo...
One more thing I wanted to add...
Probably even more than Ny, I am really excited about galloping around town to learn about California so if I ever sound super nerdy and start spouting off some facts about the history of Monterey, just know that I can tend to really GET INTO things. Maybe overkill. But I will be SURE to share with you EVERYTHING I learn about this state. Yep. Just thought you may want to be sure to stay tuned for the upcoming history lessons ahead.
All joking aside, I am seriously REALLY looking forward to this upcoming homeschool year (or months or whatever). I have learned long ago to never plan too far in advance so the week and months that I have today with my kids in home education, I appreciate them all the more. And if ever/whenever they do go off to some private school or what not, I can at least say "remember back in the days when we homeschooled?"
So, I want to make the most of the days ahead.
We officially started up our homeschool two weeks ago. The first week was probably the most difficult as we needed to sort out methods for making everything run smoothly. At this point I think I have a reasonable system that works, at least until the move, and even then, it's versatile enough where we should be able to easily get to our things and keep our system running without needing an elaborate school set up. Sure, it would be nice to have everything in place and be comfortably learning at a decent, well-lit desk with bookshelves for our material...but it's a no-can-do for now, and we've found that two medium sized cardboard boxes and a kitchen table work just as good! At least until we move.
I'll post a page soon of our curriculum picks for this school year, but here's what our basic schedule looks like:
8:00- up, shower, breakfast, devotional with Daily Audio Bible for Kids
Block 1: Language Arts (Grammar, Spelling, Writing Workshop, Handwriting, Literature)
Block 2: Math
Block 3: History or Science
Block 4: Art, French, or Music (music appreciation or piano lesson)
Once a week we introduce a "hymnal of the week". I realized just how important it is for my kids to understand their roots and to learn many of the hymnals that were commonplace to me in my upbringing. I don't want my kids to lose out on that. Simple hymns such as "Just As I Am" aren't ever sung at most of the churches we've attended because we generally don't attend traditional services. As much as we like the contemporary style worship, there is absolutely nothing that can replace the beauty of simple hymnals and I find it kind of...well...(
This year we're also studying California History...which I'm a bit nostalgic about it because I also studied California History in 4th grade! (We lived in Atwater back in the late 80's). A friend is going to sell me her "My Golden California" curriculum which she says I can adapt to Ny's level. Until then, we're using the plenteous resources available to us at our local libraries.
You wouldn't believe the TONS of info on your own state until actually deem it important to go looking for it...and boy is it everywhere. Between the libraries' avid "state" collections and resources, the local museums and aquariums, and welcome centers, I think we have enough resources at our disposal to keep us on California history for more than a year...but we're going to only plan on studying it until December. We'll see where our interest leads us into the new semester.
For literature, we're reading classics and doing book reports. Right now we're reading "The Secret Garden". I wanted to place more focus this year on teaching Ny to practice writing, writing, writing, and learning the elements of literature. This means I've decided to go back to some curriculum which in the past I totally disliked (Shurley English) but with time I've learned to adapt to our needs (in other words, I don't follow the curriculum word for word!) We're currently finishing up Level 2 with that. Yep, the same level 2 we started two years ago! But that's okay, it's definitely on target for her now.
I dunno...what else should I say...
Oh! Almost forgot...we are starting Classical Conversations in a few days- a total excitement hub for our kids since they haven't been in a "co-op" of any sorts since our move to Cali. While CC isn't necessarily a co-op, it definitely will feel somewhat familiar to us (morning assembly and prayer) and it is Christian which helps me feel more at ease that we'll meet and befriend other families of faith. The kids are just super excited! And we'll go clothes shopping this weekend for a few more items (didn't I just buy Ny some bluejeans two MONTHS ago??!!!)
Anyhoo...
One more thing I wanted to add...
Probably even more than Ny, I am really excited about galloping around town to learn about California so if I ever sound super nerdy and start spouting off some facts about the history of Monterey, just know that I can tend to really GET INTO things. Maybe overkill. But I will be SURE to share with you EVERYTHING I learn about this state. Yep. Just thought you may want to be sure to stay tuned for the upcoming history lessons ahead.
All joking aside, I am seriously REALLY looking forward to this upcoming homeschool year (or months or whatever). I have learned long ago to never plan too far in advance so the week and months that I have today with my kids in home education, I appreciate them all the more. And if ever/whenever they do go off to some private school or what not, I can at least say "remember back in the days when we homeschooled?"
So, I want to make the most of the days ahead.
Bye bye summer break...
I can't believe school has started back already...but here we are. I've been thinking about how quickly our summer flew. Brief recap:
Then there was Disneyland and American Girls and Ny's brief stints at ballet and Z's sudden realization that we were here in Cali to stay for awhile and her transitional probs. (Glad to say things have settled down with her and she's back to her normal self again- talking, laughing, and amazing me more each day!)
Amazing how the summer quickly came and went.
But Back To School we are.
Next post, what our school is looking like these days.
My birthday- yay 34! |
Visits to the Aquarium |
Our local library's 100th birthday party |
My hubby's birthday @ Bubba Gump Shrimp Company |
A beautiful sunset on the beach |
Fun on the coast |
My daughter's birthday at Chuck E Cheese |
Amazing how the summer quickly came and went.
But Back To School we are.
Next post, what our school is looking like these days.
Friday, August 5, 2011
Moving again.
Well, goodbye summer.
Didn't I just write a post only a while back entitled "Hello Summer?"
We started our homeschool back up this week and, yep, school's back in full swing for the Zinga clan. I'm planning to write up a post soon on our curriculum for this year.
Anyhow, things are still constantly evolving in our home. As you know, we just moved to Monterey (well, Pacific Grove really) about 5 1/2 months ago. We've been living in an apartment right by the ocean and acclimating ourselves to the new climate, culture, and community (the 3 c's!)...BUT...there has been some missing elements to our family life here.
So, okay, I have an aggressive house hunter hubby, and he's really been wheelin' and dealin' to get us a home a few miles inland from the coast. It's about a 20 minute drive from his work here and really, I feel it's the best of both worlds. God is so good (and no, I didn't always feel so positively about this move at first, but I've worked it through it). We'll still be an active part of the community here - because, hey, let's face it, it's a BEAUTIFUL place to work and visit and have a lot of fun in- but we'll definitely lower our living costs and have more space at what will be our new place of residence. Did I mention that we'll have a Target and Walmart? Okay that's a big deal for me. Not that I don't appreciate what makes Monterey unique (kayaking and surfing on the beach, scuba-diving, surfing, paddle-boating, fishing, upscale shopping if you got the moolah, cycling, riding surreys, a good city transit, ethnic restaurants of all types, and if you're into wine - which I'm not- you can have a field day as each restaurant thinks their selections are better than the next)...so there are a lot of good things about this place. But on to why we're moving...
Did I mention that it's warmer? Plus we'll have more space. And we'll be in a house and I won't need to use the community laundromat anymore.
I'm a sight to behold- 5'0" woman lugging backloads of laundry in my husband's military bag up and down a flight of stairs every week- oh, you better believe I'm looking forward to having my own washer and dryer again!!!! (You never what you're missing until you miss it. The next time I see my own washer/dryer unit, I won't be complaining about how much laundry I have-- I'll be breathing thanks to God that I don't have to go up and down a flight of stairs for 3-4 hours each week, waiting on my turn for the dryers which never dry properly and cost a pretty penny). So I'm excited. :-)
As for our moving prep, at this moment our apartment is nearly boxed up. We've been living on temporary mode these past few months anyhow since we knew we'd be moving again...so I didn't unpack everything to begin with...but I'm really surprised at how much I DID unpack. Thankfully I kept all my boxes.
As for homeschool, like I mentioned earlier, we started this week with Ny's 4th grade year, and Z is officially our preschooler. Ny is really excited because she'll be starting Classical Conversations here in Monterey in a few weeks, and the cool thing is that there are a few families there who also live in the community we're moving to- so maybe we'll connect?
Connecting is still a major activity on my list of must-do's...I think because it's the only way I feel anyone can truly survive a move- whether it's to a new city or out of country. I'm finding that on days we don't go anywhere the whole family is cranky. Really. It's just not our cup of tea...and I really do like being out a lot- exploring the sights and sound of the world beyond "home". There's so much history and culture to learn about here that we've decided for Ny's first semester we are studying California History.
However, Z has been having a really tough time lately with all the sights and sounds of Cali. After 5 months of what in her 3 year old mind was one big vacation, she finally woke up to the understanding that we are here for a long time. When it dawned on her that our apartment is not a hotel and that we haven't seen her grandparents and her favorite friends back home in a really long time, she suddenly coiled into a shell and became our baby all over again. Lots of tears, not wanting to sleep alone, not wanting to feed herself or dress herself, and even lost interest in play...I tell ya, it's been a rough few weeks. Then...she up and decided that she just didn't feel like speaking anymore either. And that was the hardest of all of her symptoms for us to deal with. The day we quit hearing her voice, we knew there was a major problem and it hurt beyond hurt. A friend of mine suggested that what she was going through may be very similar to grief. Z was experiencing separation anxiety mixed with some fear and probably a dose of anger too, because she just didn't have it all sorted out yet. My friend reminded me that in her small world, everything is larger than large, and her perception of the move was completely different than ours. Whereas my 9 year old has come to terms with leaving her friends behind and is now making new friends and attempting to make the necessary adjustments to move forward, it doesn't quite work that way when you're just 3, and all you know is all you know. And suddenly everything you see now doesn't add up in any way, shape, or form to the home you once knew. Like the sights of ocean water on a beach and the smell of salt water in the air. Or the sound of sea gulls, the feeling of cool, gusty breezes against your skin in the middle of summer. What used to be your lone house surrounded by a huge yard to romp and play, collect rocks, and dig dirt has suddenly turned into a 100+ resident apartment complex featuring neatly numbered carports neighboring restaurants, businesses, hotels,and other apartments. Looking at life through her lenses, I am able to better understand what Z might be going through right now.
Granted, she is now talking to us again and eating just fine (praising GOD!!!!)-- although she still comes to sleep in our room some nights, and that's okay. My main thing for her transition right now is just to help her to feel safe and to try to develop some form of routine for her. Which is pretty hard right now (the routine part, that is), considering things won't be the same a few weeks from now after our 2nd move. But we'll just have to take it one day at a time, one week at a time.
So, please keep us (and all our moving) in your prayers...and next time you think about us shoot out a small prayer on behalf of my kiddos and their transition into our new school year.
Hope you and yours are doing great!
Til next time...
Didn't I just write a post only a while back entitled "Hello Summer?"
We started our homeschool back up this week and, yep, school's back in full swing for the Zinga clan. I'm planning to write up a post soon on our curriculum for this year.
Anyhow, things are still constantly evolving in our home. As you know, we just moved to Monterey (well, Pacific Grove really) about 5 1/2 months ago. We've been living in an apartment right by the ocean and acclimating ourselves to the new climate, culture, and community (the 3 c's!)...BUT...there has been some missing elements to our family life here.
- We suffer from sticker shock. A growing family of 4 with kids living in a tourist-enabled city doesn't quite equal to "family friendly" in my book. (Imagine no Target...but you do have a Macy's. No Chick-Fil-A...but you have a nice mom and pop shop that will charge you 3 times the amount for a chicken burger). Time to relocate.
- We miss the warm weather. It's the middle of summer. I am happy, ReALLY happy, if we can shed our sweaters because the temp hit 67 degrees. A far cry from last summer's 107. Can you tell I'm slightly homesick? Okay, not to the point of desperation...just a twang of "ahhh...remember the days".
- Space. Need I say more?

Did I mention that it's warmer? Plus we'll have more space. And we'll be in a house and I won't need to use the community laundromat anymore.
I'm a sight to behold- 5'0" woman lugging backloads of laundry in my husband's military bag up and down a flight of stairs every week- oh, you better believe I'm looking forward to having my own washer and dryer again!!!! (You never what you're missing until you miss it. The next time I see my own washer/dryer unit, I won't be complaining about how much laundry I have-- I'll be breathing thanks to God that I don't have to go up and down a flight of stairs for 3-4 hours each week, waiting on my turn for the dryers which never dry properly and cost a pretty penny). So I'm excited. :-)
As for our moving prep, at this moment our apartment is nearly boxed up. We've been living on temporary mode these past few months anyhow since we knew we'd be moving again...so I didn't unpack everything to begin with...but I'm really surprised at how much I DID unpack. Thankfully I kept all my boxes.
As for homeschool, like I mentioned earlier, we started this week with Ny's 4th grade year, and Z is officially our preschooler. Ny is really excited because she'll be starting Classical Conversations here in Monterey in a few weeks, and the cool thing is that there are a few families there who also live in the community we're moving to- so maybe we'll connect?
Connecting is still a major activity on my list of must-do's...I think because it's the only way I feel anyone can truly survive a move- whether it's to a new city or out of country. I'm finding that on days we don't go anywhere the whole family is cranky. Really. It's just not our cup of tea...and I really do like being out a lot- exploring the sights and sound of the world beyond "home". There's so much history and culture to learn about here that we've decided for Ny's first semester we are studying California History.
However, Z has been having a really tough time lately with all the sights and sounds of Cali. After 5 months of what in her 3 year old mind was one big vacation, she finally woke up to the understanding that we are here for a long time. When it dawned on her that our apartment is not a hotel and that we haven't seen her grandparents and her favorite friends back home in a really long time, she suddenly coiled into a shell and became our baby all over again. Lots of tears, not wanting to sleep alone, not wanting to feed herself or dress herself, and even lost interest in play...I tell ya, it's been a rough few weeks. Then...she up and decided that she just didn't feel like speaking anymore either. And that was the hardest of all of her symptoms for us to deal with. The day we quit hearing her voice, we knew there was a major problem and it hurt beyond hurt. A friend of mine suggested that what she was going through may be very similar to grief. Z was experiencing separation anxiety mixed with some fear and probably a dose of anger too, because she just didn't have it all sorted out yet. My friend reminded me that in her small world, everything is larger than large, and her perception of the move was completely different than ours. Whereas my 9 year old has come to terms with leaving her friends behind and is now making new friends and attempting to make the necessary adjustments to move forward, it doesn't quite work that way when you're just 3, and all you know is all you know. And suddenly everything you see now doesn't add up in any way, shape, or form to the home you once knew. Like the sights of ocean water on a beach and the smell of salt water in the air. Or the sound of sea gulls, the feeling of cool, gusty breezes against your skin in the middle of summer. What used to be your lone house surrounded by a huge yard to romp and play, collect rocks, and dig dirt has suddenly turned into a 100+ resident apartment complex featuring neatly numbered carports neighboring restaurants, businesses, hotels,and other apartments. Looking at life through her lenses, I am able to better understand what Z might be going through right now.
Granted, she is now talking to us again and eating just fine (praising GOD!!!!)-- although she still comes to sleep in our room some nights, and that's okay. My main thing for her transition right now is just to help her to feel safe and to try to develop some form of routine for her. Which is pretty hard right now (the routine part, that is), considering things won't be the same a few weeks from now after our 2nd move. But we'll just have to take it one day at a time, one week at a time.
So, please keep us (and all our moving) in your prayers...and next time you think about us shoot out a small prayer on behalf of my kiddos and their transition into our new school year.
Hope you and yours are doing great!
Til next time...
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Breaking through the fog
I simply can NOT believe my daughter is going to the 4th grade. Just can't believe it. When did she get so tall? When did she stop being a preschooler? 1st grader? 3rd grader?
While the latter part of my blog posts here have been about transition, I've not mentioned how more shocked I am at how fast my kiddos are growing than about the physical changes around us (i.e.- the move). And now that we are finally settling into the west coast and starting to really get into life here, my focus has shifted from attempting to help my children adjust to the move as much as possible, to the reality shock that they have just grown up megalots in the past 3 months.
I'm not sure if I mentioned this in my last post or not, but a few weeks ago Ny started to really get into cooking with me. Every time I'm in the kitchen she wants to help. I just didn't realize she'd start taking over so soon! She cooked up a whole batch of pancakes on her own and made my coffee. Wow. Can she really be nine already?
I'm also finding that the less cluttered I feel about everyday life and the more streamlined I am on the homefront, the more I have time to notice the smallest changes in my kids. Changes like the fact that Z is 3 and a half, but going through a "baby stage" (requesting baby food, wanting to watch "Potty Power" even though she's been potty trained for nearly two years now, suddenly not wanting to sleep on her own). And I've been noticing more how patient Ny is with her little sister, but how she so desperately needs space of her own (maybe her own room? We shall see). These little things I'm noticing are so small they barely seem to make a difference...but oh, they really do!
I dunno...how do I explain this?
Out here on the Central Coast, we have this little climate issue that translates to lots of FOG for us. The fog usually comes in early in the morning and burns off close to noon. But in the Pacific Grove area, sometimes the fog rarely seems to lift and most of our summer days are not only on the side of chilly but overcast and foggy.
So, I say all that to say this: it's as if I've spent the last 8 years or so in a fog. Not the kind of fog where you literally don't know where you're going, but a different kind. The kind of fog where you have plans and ambitions and goals and desires, and you are trying so hard to get there. I mean, after all, it's for you and your family's benefit so it must be okay right? Only it's not so okay when the ambitions fog up your path and you can't see where you're going anymore for the lack of clarity.
I feel as though these last four months in California have been a time of clarity for me. The fog has been lifting and I've been able to see past my own desires and finally for once, really see the people around me. Like my own family. Like my kids and their significant growth. Like my husband and his needs. Like people down the street. Like people at the grocery stores. People at church. People on the bus. People everywhere. I see people every day who are angry and bitter or lonely...sad...or even simply lost. Lost in a world where it seems nobody cares. The weird thing is that it's like an experience where I feel that I get a 2 second glimpse into their lives and I am drawn into their emotional world. I feel it, but then only for a second or two. I'm sure God has a plan and He wants me to pray. So I say a silent prayer for them. But maybe there is more?
I don't know...but I am sensing a wind of change for God's people all over the world. Something significant is about to happen in the lives of Believers...and God is going to use us to bring hope and joy and peace...and the Answer. But we just have to be willing to allow the fog of everyday life to clear up a bit so that we have the clarity and peace we need to minister to others.
I want that so badly! Every true-at-heart mama in the universe knows the pressures of every day life, because now we don't live for ourselves anymore. I was talking to my own mother the other night, about how having children has made me less selfish. We give and give and give to our kids until we have nothing left...and we would do it all over again in a heartbeat. There is just something very special about a mother's heart. She'll do anything (even neglect her own needs/deprive herself) to ensure her own children have what they need.
Sometimes in the midst of giving and doing, planning our weeks, shuttling the kids to activities, grocery shopping and meal planning, cleaning house, cooking meals, caring FOR the kids, (and then if you homeschool...well...there goes more energy, time and effort), we can find ourselves utterly lost in that same "fog" I mentioned earlier. I mean, it's amazing to me how that even doing the right things sometimes can result in overload and burnout. But is that ever God's intention- for us to be burnt out while doing good? So this scripture I was reading answered that one for me:
That goes way deeper than figuring out which summer camps in which to place your kids. When the fog lifts, suddenly so much of what we've been doing with our children seems so extravagantly superficial.
Fun, yes! But not of ultimate importance.
By all means, have FUN with your kids! Go places with them, do stuff together. I would never trade in a million years the Disney trip we took a few weeks ago. We created beautiful memories together. But my point is...once all the planning is over and you're back at home looking at each other again, now's the time to connect soul to soul. And I do think that in our busy world it's so easy to neglect the smallest things.
I hope I remember to always take time to breathe, relax, and connect with my family. And keep that fog away.
While the latter part of my blog posts here have been about transition, I've not mentioned how more shocked I am at how fast my kiddos are growing than about the physical changes around us (i.e.- the move). And now that we are finally settling into the west coast and starting to really get into life here, my focus has shifted from attempting to help my children adjust to the move as much as possible, to the reality shock that they have just grown up megalots in the past 3 months.
I'm not sure if I mentioned this in my last post or not, but a few weeks ago Ny started to really get into cooking with me. Every time I'm in the kitchen she wants to help. I just didn't realize she'd start taking over so soon! She cooked up a whole batch of pancakes on her own and made my coffee. Wow. Can she really be nine already?
I'm also finding that the less cluttered I feel about everyday life and the more streamlined I am on the homefront, the more I have time to notice the smallest changes in my kids. Changes like the fact that Z is 3 and a half, but going through a "baby stage" (requesting baby food, wanting to watch "Potty Power" even though she's been potty trained for nearly two years now, suddenly not wanting to sleep on her own). And I've been noticing more how patient Ny is with her little sister, but how she so desperately needs space of her own (maybe her own room? We shall see). These little things I'm noticing are so small they barely seem to make a difference...but oh, they really do!
I dunno...how do I explain this?
Out here on the Central Coast, we have this little climate issue that translates to lots of FOG for us. The fog usually comes in early in the morning and burns off close to noon. But in the Pacific Grove area, sometimes the fog rarely seems to lift and most of our summer days are not only on the side of chilly but overcast and foggy.
So, I say all that to say this: it's as if I've spent the last 8 years or so in a fog. Not the kind of fog where you literally don't know where you're going, but a different kind. The kind of fog where you have plans and ambitions and goals and desires, and you are trying so hard to get there. I mean, after all, it's for you and your family's benefit so it must be okay right? Only it's not so okay when the ambitions fog up your path and you can't see where you're going anymore for the lack of clarity.
I feel as though these last four months in California have been a time of clarity for me. The fog has been lifting and I've been able to see past my own desires and finally for once, really see the people around me. Like my own family. Like my kids and their significant growth. Like my husband and his needs. Like people down the street. Like people at the grocery stores. People at church. People on the bus. People everywhere. I see people every day who are angry and bitter or lonely...sad...or even simply lost. Lost in a world where it seems nobody cares. The weird thing is that it's like an experience where I feel that I get a 2 second glimpse into their lives and I am drawn into their emotional world. I feel it, but then only for a second or two. I'm sure God has a plan and He wants me to pray. So I say a silent prayer for them. But maybe there is more?
I don't know...but I am sensing a wind of change for God's people all over the world. Something significant is about to happen in the lives of Believers...and God is going to use us to bring hope and joy and peace...and the Answer. But we just have to be willing to allow the fog of everyday life to clear up a bit so that we have the clarity and peace we need to minister to others.
I want that so badly! Every true-at-heart mama in the universe knows the pressures of every day life, because now we don't live for ourselves anymore. I was talking to my own mother the other night, about how having children has made me less selfish. We give and give and give to our kids until we have nothing left...and we would do it all over again in a heartbeat. There is just something very special about a mother's heart. She'll do anything (even neglect her own needs/deprive herself) to ensure her own children have what they need.
Sometimes in the midst of giving and doing, planning our weeks, shuttling the kids to activities, grocery shopping and meal planning, cleaning house, cooking meals, caring FOR the kids, (and then if you homeschool...well...there goes more energy, time and effort), we can find ourselves utterly lost in that same "fog" I mentioned earlier. I mean, it's amazing to me how that even doing the right things sometimes can result in overload and burnout. But is that ever God's intention- for us to be burnt out while doing good? So this scripture I was reading answered that one for me:
Galatians 6:9 NKJV "And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart"So, the thing is not to become weary (or caught up) in our daily activities to the point where we get spun out of shape, confused, or in just a great big fog of life. The "fog" robs us of being able to clearly see the people around us and their needs because we're so super busy. I think even we mamas can use that reminder from time to time...and to remember to stay encouraged. If you're in the "foggy" season where you feel that, well to be quite blunt, there is no end to the mound of diapers surrounding you- well, in a nutshell, don't give up! This too will pass. It's just a season, a phase of life, and the Lord has promised to strengthen you through it. But keep on doing good for your family. And if you feel that you don't have the clarity you need to see the roses from the trees, ask the Lord to lift the fog away from you so that you can better connect with your loved ones (and not only serve them). There is a difference. Once the fog is lifted, it's as if after all the years of doing so much for a child (changing their diapers, kissing their scraped knees, dressing them, feeding them, teaching them, shuttling them about town) suddenly comes to a momentary halt as you look at this child you created and realize they are a person waiting to connect with you on a level beyond rudimentary needs. Here is this complex being- a social, emotional, psychological, spiritual being staring back at you with deep, meaningful eyes, waiting on you to connect with her soul and lead her spiritually.
That goes way deeper than figuring out which summer camps in which to place your kids. When the fog lifts, suddenly so much of what we've been doing with our children seems so extravagantly superficial.
Fun, yes! But not of ultimate importance.
By all means, have FUN with your kids! Go places with them, do stuff together. I would never trade in a million years the Disney trip we took a few weeks ago. We created beautiful memories together. But my point is...once all the planning is over and you're back at home looking at each other again, now's the time to connect soul to soul. And I do think that in our busy world it's so easy to neglect the smallest things.
I hope I remember to always take time to breathe, relax, and connect with my family. And keep that fog away.
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Hello summer!
It has been a crazy few weeks, but a fun crazy all the same.
Ny finished up her 3rd grade school year at home, we took a little trip to Hollywood and American Girls to celebrate Ny's 9th birthday this month, we are still house hunting, and we're looking forward to a fun summer around town as the girls are getting involved in those summer fun activities.
This summer, Ny has been wanting to try ballet again, so we had her first lesson yesterday at a nearby studio.
So far, this summer is going really well, considering the significant transition- climate-wise. The highest our temp has been is 72 on a really nice day. Beautiful! But for the most part, we're still in sweaters and in the high 50's to mid 60's around here. It's a big change from the high 90's we're used to down south. Not that I mourn the sweaty, humid days...but I do miss the warmth just a little bit.
I mean, it's June for goodness' sake! I really didn't think we'd still be wearing sweaters.
But that's Monterey for ya.
Oh, and that little trip down to L.A. a few weeks ago...now THAT was a summer vacation for us. Just a day or two, but that's all we needed of warmth to feel like we had an official spring or summer break of sorts. Seriously, I never realized how much a slight change in climate could throw off my psychi...anyhoo, we'll get adjusted. I hope!
Here are the girls at Disney and American Girls:
So far this has been a GReAT summer! And it's only June.
Oh, and one of my favorite parts is the package we received from my parents at our doorstep. On Ny's birthday she opened up a box filled with goodies from her grandma and grandpa and her uncle. What a wonderful birthday surprise! Thanks, Family! We love you SO much!!!
Okay...so I'm really gonna try hard not to let so much time lapse in between my posts. But seriously, I got locked out of my account for a few weeks there (I couldn't remember my login). I have been wanting to catch up my posts but hopefully you guys can see that everything has been going well for us and we're taking it one day at a time, making the most of our days and determining to enjoy our lives out here on the west coast.
If we have a move date soon, there will be more photos of course...and updates of the kids' summer fun. And I have some stuff to share about my spiritual growth- things the Lord has been teaching me.
Til next time.
Ny finished up her 3rd grade school year at home, we took a little trip to Hollywood and American Girls to celebrate Ny's 9th birthday this month, we are still house hunting, and we're looking forward to a fun summer around town as the girls are getting involved in those summer fun activities.
Here are the girls on Easter Sunday. We were in San Jose that weekend. |
Finishing up our school year with learning flashcards/ placemats. |
Enjoying a chilly morning in the courtyard tree in back of our home |
A science experiment- finding the rainbow |
Practicing keyboard |
More tree fun |
Marbles for math |
Z's piano practice |
This summer, Ny has been wanting to try ballet again, so we had her first lesson yesterday at a nearby studio.
So far, this summer is going really well, considering the significant transition- climate-wise. The highest our temp has been is 72 on a really nice day. Beautiful! But for the most part, we're still in sweaters and in the high 50's to mid 60's around here. It's a big change from the high 90's we're used to down south. Not that I mourn the sweaty, humid days...but I do miss the warmth just a little bit.
I mean, it's June for goodness' sake! I really didn't think we'd still be wearing sweaters.
But that's Monterey for ya.
Oh, and that little trip down to L.A. a few weeks ago...now THAT was a summer vacation for us. Just a day or two, but that's all we needed of warmth to feel like we had an official spring or summer break of sorts. Seriously, I never realized how much a slight change in climate could throw off my psychi...anyhoo, we'll get adjusted. I hope!
Here are the girls at Disney and American Girls:
Of course, I couldn't leave out me and my hubby! |
Oh, and one of my favorite parts is the package we received from my parents at our doorstep. On Ny's birthday she opened up a box filled with goodies from her grandma and grandpa and her uncle. What a wonderful birthday surprise! Thanks, Family! We love you SO much!!!
Okay...so I'm really gonna try hard not to let so much time lapse in between my posts. But seriously, I got locked out of my account for a few weeks there (I couldn't remember my login). I have been wanting to catch up my posts but hopefully you guys can see that everything has been going well for us and we're taking it one day at a time, making the most of our days and determining to enjoy our lives out here on the west coast.
If we have a move date soon, there will be more photos of course...and updates of the kids' summer fun. And I have some stuff to share about my spiritual growth- things the Lord has been teaching me.
Til next time.
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